Rubber band dating
When allowed to pull back, men will naturally return to whatever level of intimacy was there when he stretched away.
This is an interesting theory and less discouraging than thinking your guy just doesn’t want to be close.
John Gray essentially believes that men have an intimacy cycle that is comparable with a rubber band, which stretches (this is when the man pulls away) and then eventually springs back, which is when he wants to get closer.
Even more interestingly, when he has stretched the rubber band as far as it can go (basically distanced himself), he will then feel the urge for love and intimacy again and bingo, he springs back into relationship action, picking up the relationship at Now I there is a lot I enjoy about this infamous book but I can wholeheartedly say that whilst there are no doubt men who behave in the manner described, many are have actually got busted up rubber bands that do not spring back into action.
to date he has been attentive and seemingly interested and consistent.
it's not personal or a reflection on the relationship or how he feels about me FYI: we have been communicating for 6 weeks, seeing each other for a month and approx half a doz dates in that time incl x2 sleep overs, no exclusivity talk (i am still dating and assume he is too but we have not discussed this).
I speak to people who are in healthy relationships all the time and not one of these people is caught up in some guys ‘relationship menstrual cycle’!
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This is actually a very normal process that most men go through in intimate relationships.
Called the “rubber band” or the male intimacy cycle, it’s when a man vacillates between being close to his partner and then pulling away.